Sikcell: People living with Sickle Cell

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Hey fam know its been awhile but I need some advice from those who go through the same things I do. So here is the problem this guy that I have been dating for awhile long distance think its time we take it to moving in together but not in another state where he has a new job. I told him that this is a big step but I have a hard time dealing with uprooting having to find a GOOD set of doctors and all that comes with moving is very stressful. I know what triggers me into crisis the easiest thats STRESS!!! He insists that I'm being a candy ass scared to leave the nest...my nest is comfortable I know that I'm in a safe place where if I need help I can get it . One would think a thirty year old wouldn't be so anxious about moving. Any advice would help....

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Comment by dawn denise on January 14, 2012 at 2:45pm: i wouldn't move for a guy unless he has put a ring on it.

don't forget that the most important sex organ is the brain:)

Comment by Chasidi Poole on December 8, 2011 at 8:16pm: Thanks for your advice I really appreciate your thoughts!!

Comment by sedika gazey on November 25, 2011 at 4:14am: Chasidi, I moved to another state as well. However before I made that big jump I looked into the place where I was moving and I asked my doctor who would be the best person in that area. It turned out to be the BETTER than the doctors I had before. (ohio to minnesota) It turned out to be the best health desicion of my life. Of course there are still problems like dealing with the morons in ERs and evil night nurses :D. I just want to say dont rush yourself and make a informed decision because it is your choice. I wish you all the best!!!!

Comment by Marcus McKinley on November 23, 2011 at 6:35am: Hey Chasidi, I think it is perfectly fine to have the feelings that you do. I just recently made a big move to a new state and have gone through the doctor process. It is very strenuous, and takes a lot of will and determination. It is very hard uprooting from what you already know, and have known for quite some time. Me and mine, we are in a similar situation also, we are long distance and when she moves out this way, she will be going through the same process. I told her to take her time in decision making because if i rush her, it may just cause a strain in our relationship. We all know moving in itself is stressful, then sickle cell on top of that, is super stressful. You are not being a candy ass lol, try to explain it to him in a different point of view, let him know of all the stress we go through with health care providers, the stigma behind sickle cell, and finding a doc whom actually knows about the disease and can treat our disease in a responsible manner. Moving will also require getting to know people, jobs, getting to know the new city, etc. It may just not be your time yet, then again it could all go smoothly. You just have to think long and hard and pray and ask for guidance and wisdom in your decision making.