How does having Sickle Cell affect your Social & Dating life????

Hola Everyone,

 

I was just wondering how your social and dating lives are affected by sickle cell???
I rarely meet people who can relate to what I'm going through. Dating is a no go b/c people never understand why I'm in the hospital so much, why I go to bed early, why I take daily naps. It gets to be too much and I realize that no one will ever understand what I go through unless they have the disease itself. I do believe it's someone out there for everyone. I'll meet my prince charming one day, that day isn't today though!!

 

 

Just leave your thoughts and let me know how some of your personal experiences went.

 

P.S. I had a guy tell me he couldn't date me b/c he feels I'm going to die & can't handle that.

The dumb excuses ppl make!!!

No one knows when our time is up except the one & only almighty God!!!!

We're some fighters. Keep Fighting!!!!

 

God Bless & Stay Healthy!!!

 

 

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Comment by Sonya Shiverick on January 24, 2013 at 10:33pm

Kiara,

It's simply going to take an authentic God sent man to enter your life and love you effectively in a romantically involved relationship.  This isn't something that I've read, but indeed a learning experience through my own personal experience in romance.  I am married to a very special man who has tremendous compassion for the  challenges I face because of the illness.  He is very understanding of my complications and offers a vast amount of support in every way that he knows how.  When a man will take the time to put forth an effort in educating himself on the illness and lifestyle of living that comes along too, without any push from another source, then you can be confident in knowing that God has worked a miracle within your life.  Truly, your prince charming has arrived and you are to be forever grateful because loving someone with sickle cell isn't per-say hard, it's the amount of support the illness demands.  Again, when the love and emotional feelings are of authenticity, being giving with their support will come as a natural for them.  Speak with God in detail, concerning the type of partner you desire.  Don't ever short change yourself and settle for someone whom you know isn't a genuine fit.  You are worthy to be loved, despite having sickle cell anemia disease.  You're right, those former guys had nothing but excuses, but sometimes our challenges can be quite intimidating, overwhelming or burdensome to others in the area of romantic relationships.  Live your best life sickle cell diva, stay strong and in wellness.

Comment by braxton j. on December 25, 2012 at 2:18am

Hey Kiara,

 

You are not alone on this one im 23yrs old and still struggle with this. And form a guys perspective one having Sickle Cell its devistating once I tell women that I have this desease they find a way to stop talking to me.I find it better to tell someone I have Sickel Cell later on in our relationship they seem to not "freak out" as much but they all end up leaving in the end there have been few relationships that I've had where the girls actually stayed and that gives me some hope that maybe I can have a decent relationship and ironically my best relationship was with a girl who had the trait lol.

Comment by Ade Dotun on December 12, 2012 at 10:50pm

yes there are a lot of ignorant people n we just have to keep educating them, great video btw, i will share it with the community...well done!

Comment by Kiara Owens on December 12, 2012 at 10:39pm

Tahara,

I'll deff check out your post. It is incredibly sad how ignorant ppl can be. I keep my faith in God, although it could be alot stronger. I'm still a working progress. He said "Can I catch it?" Wow, he deff deserved to be slapped. If a person can't understand our disease & that we can't predict what will as well as when it will set off, they don't deserve the time of day. Check out my youtube vid of sickle cell @ Kiara198923. Leave a comment. I'll have a new one by next week hopefully.

Comment by Ade Dotun on December 11, 2012 at 9:12pm
Comment by Tahara Boston on December 7, 2012 at 2:18am

Hello Kiara

I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and I'm sure we all are having or have had that same issue. Most guys have said the same thing to me too and I've even gotten this one. " So can I catch it?" I wish that this was not the case but it's almost like living in another world...lol to think that there are so many uneducated ppl out there. But your right there is someone for everybody. But be careful for what you ask for.....just saying...if you read my post you will understand why I say this.

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